Getting back with an ex may be a bad thing to do, although it is tempting.
It could be a good thing to get back together but on the other hand it might turn into World War 2.
The best way to find out is to attack the idea and tear it apart.
You might want to thing about the reasons why it might not work, so you can deal with the possibility of a let down.
Think about it emotionally and if you feel like that you will take too much of a beating then maybe you should step back and not pursue the relationship.
If in fact it passes your emotional test then maybe you can get back together with your ex.
Relationships are complex and its easy to grow apart.
Whether you grow faster than the other person or they grow faster than you, either way you will find that the both of you may not be compatible anymore.
The compatibility that the both of you once had becomes null and void, or maybe your not relating to that person as much anymore like you use to.
If you or your boyfriend or girlfriend just went through one of these growth spurts then you will find the commonality isn't there like it used to be.
If it really is a good idea to get back together with ex then you will find that both of you really do need each other and make each other stronger.
Look closely, though.
Have your paths diverged? Are you like a stream that has branched off into two? Look honestly at the direction you are going and be real about it.
Could it be that one of you really is more interested in the other more than they are in them? Are you more interested in a relationship with them than they are with you? Is it the other way around? If you think that you might want to get back together with ex then you should be somewhere near the same in level of interest.
You should be on pretty equal billing here.
There should be a mutual admiration society of two going on here.
If there isn't that balance, then it probably isn't a good idea to get back together with ex.
Now is it a matter of one of you being controlling over the other? This is something that is very common in couples and is a leading factor in unhappiness within the relationship and is a major part of breaking up or divorce.
In this instance you will really have to take a good, hard look at the situation.
Is is emotionally healthy for both of you? Are one of you in the driver seat and the other a captive passenger? Then this really probably isn't a situation where it is a good idea to get back together with ex.
There are many other reasons that people break up and those may not have been the situation that the two of you were in but the principle applies for most every situation.
Take a good and honest look at it and fight to see the reasons that it won't work.
If you can convince yourself that it will only end in a breakup again, then you shouldn't do it.
If, however, you decide that it isn't guaranteed or even mostly likely that you will break up again, then it could be a good idea to get back together with ex.
It could be a good thing to get back together but on the other hand it might turn into World War 2.
The best way to find out is to attack the idea and tear it apart.
You might want to thing about the reasons why it might not work, so you can deal with the possibility of a let down.
Think about it emotionally and if you feel like that you will take too much of a beating then maybe you should step back and not pursue the relationship.
If in fact it passes your emotional test then maybe you can get back together with your ex.
Relationships are complex and its easy to grow apart.
Whether you grow faster than the other person or they grow faster than you, either way you will find that the both of you may not be compatible anymore.
The compatibility that the both of you once had becomes null and void, or maybe your not relating to that person as much anymore like you use to.
If you or your boyfriend or girlfriend just went through one of these growth spurts then you will find the commonality isn't there like it used to be.
If it really is a good idea to get back together with ex then you will find that both of you really do need each other and make each other stronger.
Look closely, though.
Have your paths diverged? Are you like a stream that has branched off into two? Look honestly at the direction you are going and be real about it.
Could it be that one of you really is more interested in the other more than they are in them? Are you more interested in a relationship with them than they are with you? Is it the other way around? If you think that you might want to get back together with ex then you should be somewhere near the same in level of interest.
You should be on pretty equal billing here.
There should be a mutual admiration society of two going on here.
If there isn't that balance, then it probably isn't a good idea to get back together with ex.
Now is it a matter of one of you being controlling over the other? This is something that is very common in couples and is a leading factor in unhappiness within the relationship and is a major part of breaking up or divorce.
In this instance you will really have to take a good, hard look at the situation.
Is is emotionally healthy for both of you? Are one of you in the driver seat and the other a captive passenger? Then this really probably isn't a situation where it is a good idea to get back together with ex.
There are many other reasons that people break up and those may not have been the situation that the two of you were in but the principle applies for most every situation.
Take a good and honest look at it and fight to see the reasons that it won't work.
If you can convince yourself that it will only end in a breakup again, then you shouldn't do it.
If, however, you decide that it isn't guaranteed or even mostly likely that you will break up again, then it could be a good idea to get back together with ex.
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