How to Win People Over as Friends

• 1). Listen to what the other person has to say and show interest. This is flattering and demonstrates warmth and empathy. Most people are not drawn to those whose only topic of conversation is themselves. Take the time to remember the name of the person you are introduced to, and better still find common ground with her, and remember some key things about her the next time you meet.
  
  
• 2). Refrain from criticizing people whenever possible. Though this may seem tempting, it may well rebound. People feel uneasy when someone they do not know well launches into criticism of a third party. Try not to be too dogmatic or controversial, though this does not mean that you have to be bland. Humor is often a wonderful common denominator. If you like someone's outfit, tell him so. Most people like compliments, provided they are sincere.
  
  
• 3). Follow up initial contacts. This is really easy nowadays, with mobile phones, texts, e-mails and social networking sites. Pace this carefully. You do not want to come across as overly intense or needy. Be warm and friendly and if you arrange to meet for coffee or a drink, show up on time as arranged. Put some effort into the friendship. Friendships will usually richly repay you if you nurture them.