One of the fundamental laws of magnetism is "opposites attract".
Does it hold true when it comes to personal magnetism also? We'll see gradually.
You have seen couples who are quite opposite to each other.
What happens there? The usual sparks fly ...
the heat is on.
It might be a bit exciting to watch.
He likes blue, she abhors it.
He likes James Bond movies.
She thinks them to be imbecile and unrealistic.
He likes hard metal.
She likes country.
And the list goes on to more serious topics also.
So, when looking for a life partner, should you go for the "exciting" scenario? The answer is a definite "no".
We'll see why.
The harsh realities of life tell us something different.
People of opposite tastes, likes and dislikes are initially drawn to each other.
But they can't stay together for long.
And even if they decide to stay, for whatever compulsions there may be, it is normally a conflict-driven, argumentative, ego-clashing relationship.
You relish certain qualities in the other person and enjoy them.
You wish you had the same too.
This liking draws you nearer.
You feel excited to be with someone, who is so different to you.
Unfortunately this excitement soon turns into negative feelings.
Socialites can't gel with homebodies.
Extroverts can't be with introverts.
Dancing pro can't keep up with a person with two left feet.
Repeated research has shown that couples who are truly happy have more in common than their differences.
So if you want to get married and stay married (with the same person!) look for someone similar to you and not opposite.
Marrying someone "similar" to you does not mean you marry your split image.
If both of you think, act and live exactly in the same way, the sheer monotony of the time together is bound to bore you to bits.
So where lies the secret of a happy and long-lasting marriage: marry someone who complements your own qualities.
Which means, marry the person, whose qualities and characteristics you lack but admire and respect.
This makes the person different but not really the "opposite".
She thinks the same thing like you, but perhaps in a more structured, planned way.
This way you can avoid many nasty conflicts and clashes, which ruin any relationship.
Research done to assess the degree of similarity or dissimilarity with committed couples.
Here is what was found: Attractive people choose to marry attractive people.
Disappointing looks do not draw beautiful looking people.
A wide gap in looks normally creates problems in marriage later.
The educational levels of happy couples normally match.
Of course Doctorates also have marital problems.
People don't marry looking at their education degrees.
They marry because their intellects match.
In America there is class.
Upper class American would not ideally marry someone from a lower class.
Country club types marry country club types.
Ivy Leaguers marry Ivy Leaguers.
The rich prince marrying the poor ugly duckling is really a fairy tale.
People from diverse religious communities indeed tie the knot but successful couples usually have similar spiritual beliefs.
It is always recommended that such delicate issues are discussed and a commonality arrived, before you wed the person.
It will avoid many problems later.
Rich man marrying poor girl or vice versa is not uncommon.
But the marriage lasts till the money of the rich partner vanishes.
To a large extent, happy couples agree on whether to have children, and if yes, how many.
Thus, to get married and stay married you don't have to look for someone who is your duplicate or identical twin.
After all, in a marriage the differences between the two make the relationship spicy and interesting.
However when major decision-making issues are concerned, happy couples mostly are in agreement.
With this new perspective in mind, you can now take a re-look at your own relationship before you take a final call on getting married and settling down.
You may differ on small things like the placement of that antique furniture in your room, but when it comes to major issues, make sure that you are in agreement with your life partner.
Does it hold true when it comes to personal magnetism also? We'll see gradually.
You have seen couples who are quite opposite to each other.
What happens there? The usual sparks fly ...
the heat is on.
It might be a bit exciting to watch.
He likes blue, she abhors it.
He likes James Bond movies.
She thinks them to be imbecile and unrealistic.
He likes hard metal.
She likes country.
And the list goes on to more serious topics also.
So, when looking for a life partner, should you go for the "exciting" scenario? The answer is a definite "no".
We'll see why.
The harsh realities of life tell us something different.
People of opposite tastes, likes and dislikes are initially drawn to each other.
But they can't stay together for long.
And even if they decide to stay, for whatever compulsions there may be, it is normally a conflict-driven, argumentative, ego-clashing relationship.
You relish certain qualities in the other person and enjoy them.
You wish you had the same too.
This liking draws you nearer.
You feel excited to be with someone, who is so different to you.
Unfortunately this excitement soon turns into negative feelings.
Socialites can't gel with homebodies.
Extroverts can't be with introverts.
Dancing pro can't keep up with a person with two left feet.
Repeated research has shown that couples who are truly happy have more in common than their differences.
So if you want to get married and stay married (with the same person!) look for someone similar to you and not opposite.
Marrying someone "similar" to you does not mean you marry your split image.
If both of you think, act and live exactly in the same way, the sheer monotony of the time together is bound to bore you to bits.
So where lies the secret of a happy and long-lasting marriage: marry someone who complements your own qualities.
Which means, marry the person, whose qualities and characteristics you lack but admire and respect.
This makes the person different but not really the "opposite".
She thinks the same thing like you, but perhaps in a more structured, planned way.
This way you can avoid many nasty conflicts and clashes, which ruin any relationship.
Research done to assess the degree of similarity or dissimilarity with committed couples.
Here is what was found: Attractive people choose to marry attractive people.
Disappointing looks do not draw beautiful looking people.
A wide gap in looks normally creates problems in marriage later.
The educational levels of happy couples normally match.
Of course Doctorates also have marital problems.
People don't marry looking at their education degrees.
They marry because their intellects match.
In America there is class.
Upper class American would not ideally marry someone from a lower class.
Country club types marry country club types.
Ivy Leaguers marry Ivy Leaguers.
The rich prince marrying the poor ugly duckling is really a fairy tale.
People from diverse religious communities indeed tie the knot but successful couples usually have similar spiritual beliefs.
It is always recommended that such delicate issues are discussed and a commonality arrived, before you wed the person.
It will avoid many problems later.
Rich man marrying poor girl or vice versa is not uncommon.
But the marriage lasts till the money of the rich partner vanishes.
To a large extent, happy couples agree on whether to have children, and if yes, how many.
Thus, to get married and stay married you don't have to look for someone who is your duplicate or identical twin.
After all, in a marriage the differences between the two make the relationship spicy and interesting.
However when major decision-making issues are concerned, happy couples mostly are in agreement.
With this new perspective in mind, you can now take a re-look at your own relationship before you take a final call on getting married and settling down.
You may differ on small things like the placement of that antique furniture in your room, but when it comes to major issues, make sure that you are in agreement with your life partner.
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