Marriages fixed by parents are quite common in Indian community. In fact, out of 10, seven marriages are fixed by families. In spite of all the modernization, it shows how much the youngsters have faith in the decision taken by their elders. The arranged marriage has its own distinguish charm that gives it a unique identity. The nuptial takes place according to the religious ceremony. You can make out that it is arranged nuptial the moment you get the wedding invitation card for the ceremony. Let us take a look at 6 Defining Moments in Arranged Marriage.
1 The defining Phase:
First you need to have an idea about the kind of partner you are looking for that also in a realistic way. Like girls should not think they are going to get a partner who looks like Greek God Hrithik or boys should not dream that their better half is going to look like Aishwarya. Set up realistic criteria for everything from looks to social status, career goals to family values. You need to think every aspect thoroughly. Give importance to the nature, character and career goals. The compatibility is secret of successful relationship.
2 Short listing phase:
Make a bio data of yours and post it on various matrimonial sites. In these sites, you can clearly mention about your preference, so the proposal that will come across would be matching with your preference. Meanwhile your relatives will also be doing the searching job; do tell them the kind of spouse you are looking for otherwise you will be flooded with offers.
3 Interaction:
Once you have short listed the proposal now is the time to meet in person. A causal meeting is the best. If distance is a problem then setup a virtual meeting. During the meeting, talk about career paths, work and family. Also talk about hobbies, likes and dislikes. All these will help you to understand the compatibility.
4 Family interaction:
Once the boy & girl like each other then is the time for families to take the relationship further. They try to get information about each other's family. They conduct background check about the girl and boy as well as family.
5 Engagement:
Once the family finds everything is fine then it is time for engagement. The engagement is like a small family affair attended only close group of people from both sides. In a way, it is a formal announcement of wedding.
6 Courtship Period:
The period from engagement to nuptial is the courtship period is case of arranged wedding. The outlook of family becomes liberal. In most of the communities they don't mind couple meeting and talking. Go out with each over coffee, lunch or dinner. Talk and listen to each other, only talking will bridge the gap. Gift each other some surprise gifts. Decide how you want your wedding to be? Do shopping for marriage together like for wedding attire, invitation card etcetera. If you cannot go together then take each other option, regarding style and color of whatever you are planning to buy.
1 The defining Phase:
First you need to have an idea about the kind of partner you are looking for that also in a realistic way. Like girls should not think they are going to get a partner who looks like Greek God Hrithik or boys should not dream that their better half is going to look like Aishwarya. Set up realistic criteria for everything from looks to social status, career goals to family values. You need to think every aspect thoroughly. Give importance to the nature, character and career goals. The compatibility is secret of successful relationship.
2 Short listing phase:
Make a bio data of yours and post it on various matrimonial sites. In these sites, you can clearly mention about your preference, so the proposal that will come across would be matching with your preference. Meanwhile your relatives will also be doing the searching job; do tell them the kind of spouse you are looking for otherwise you will be flooded with offers.
3 Interaction:
Once you have short listed the proposal now is the time to meet in person. A causal meeting is the best. If distance is a problem then setup a virtual meeting. During the meeting, talk about career paths, work and family. Also talk about hobbies, likes and dislikes. All these will help you to understand the compatibility.
4 Family interaction:
Once the boy & girl like each other then is the time for families to take the relationship further. They try to get information about each other's family. They conduct background check about the girl and boy as well as family.
5 Engagement:
Once the family finds everything is fine then it is time for engagement. The engagement is like a small family affair attended only close group of people from both sides. In a way, it is a formal announcement of wedding.
6 Courtship Period:
The period from engagement to nuptial is the courtship period is case of arranged wedding. The outlook of family becomes liberal. In most of the communities they don't mind couple meeting and talking. Go out with each over coffee, lunch or dinner. Talk and listen to each other, only talking will bridge the gap. Gift each other some surprise gifts. Decide how you want your wedding to be? Do shopping for marriage together like for wedding attire, invitation card etcetera. If you cannot go together then take each other option, regarding style and color of whatever you are planning to buy.
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