So, you have probably decorated your child's bedroom since they were very young and have never had a problem.
Now you think you can just walk into your teenager's bedroom and start changing things.
Wrong.
This is a sure fire way of learning what a teenage tantrum is like.
They will walk into that room, see you in there, and then it will be like an eruption.
You will probably not see them for a few days because they are sulking.
This might mean you have a quiet few days though so there is always a silver lining.
If you have done all of the above and you never want to set foot in the room again, but you hate the state of their room, there are a few things that you can do.
Talk Once they have calmed down and they are talking to you beyond the grunt sound, you can ask them if they want to change their room.
It might be that they hate their room and that is why it is always untidy.
They might really want to change.
However, they might love the room the way it is.
They might say they will try and keep it more tidy, but more often than not, you will have to live with the room the way it is until they get a job and you can ask them for rent, or they will be out on their ear.
Who does the work? Once you have discussed it found that they might want to change the room, you are going to be left with who does the work.
Unless you are very lucky and your kid has a savings account, you are going to be paying for it.
So, the only thing you are going to have power over is who does the work? Here, more often than not, it is going to be you.
Your teenager might want to help but unless you work well together, this option is going to cause the re-emergence of the grunting answers.
If you are very lucky, teenagers might want to do the work themselves.
They might have friends who want to come in and spend the day decorating.
If this is the option they go for, then jump at the chance.
The only thing you will have to do is keep on checking on them.
If you turn up at the bedroom door empty handed then this is going to activate the 'stop checking on me, it's so embarrassing!' tantrum.
The best thing to do is always bring a drink or a snack so that the checking is disguised.
Give them advice Before the decorating has started, you are going to be with them when they pick out the furniture or the wallpaper.
Let them pick this stuff out themselves and then give them bits of advice here and there.
Don't take over! If you approach this like you are having a conversation, rather than telling them what to do, things will go a lot smoother.
Too expensive? If they have chosen furniture that is too expensive, you are going to have to say no to them.
Again, this will result in the re-emergence of moody teen, but there are ways around it.
Tell them that you can't afford it, but if they save up their money, you will match what they save, or say you will pay for half.
You will earn extra brownie points if you find the item somewhere on the Internet for cheaper, and you have ordered it whilst they are having a tantrum.
This will be up to you and based on how childish they were in the store.
Now you think you can just walk into your teenager's bedroom and start changing things.
Wrong.
This is a sure fire way of learning what a teenage tantrum is like.
They will walk into that room, see you in there, and then it will be like an eruption.
You will probably not see them for a few days because they are sulking.
This might mean you have a quiet few days though so there is always a silver lining.
If you have done all of the above and you never want to set foot in the room again, but you hate the state of their room, there are a few things that you can do.
Talk Once they have calmed down and they are talking to you beyond the grunt sound, you can ask them if they want to change their room.
It might be that they hate their room and that is why it is always untidy.
They might really want to change.
However, they might love the room the way it is.
They might say they will try and keep it more tidy, but more often than not, you will have to live with the room the way it is until they get a job and you can ask them for rent, or they will be out on their ear.
Who does the work? Once you have discussed it found that they might want to change the room, you are going to be left with who does the work.
Unless you are very lucky and your kid has a savings account, you are going to be paying for it.
So, the only thing you are going to have power over is who does the work? Here, more often than not, it is going to be you.
Your teenager might want to help but unless you work well together, this option is going to cause the re-emergence of the grunting answers.
If you are very lucky, teenagers might want to do the work themselves.
They might have friends who want to come in and spend the day decorating.
If this is the option they go for, then jump at the chance.
The only thing you will have to do is keep on checking on them.
If you turn up at the bedroom door empty handed then this is going to activate the 'stop checking on me, it's so embarrassing!' tantrum.
The best thing to do is always bring a drink or a snack so that the checking is disguised.
Give them advice Before the decorating has started, you are going to be with them when they pick out the furniture or the wallpaper.
Let them pick this stuff out themselves and then give them bits of advice here and there.
Don't take over! If you approach this like you are having a conversation, rather than telling them what to do, things will go a lot smoother.
Too expensive? If they have chosen furniture that is too expensive, you are going to have to say no to them.
Again, this will result in the re-emergence of moody teen, but there are ways around it.
Tell them that you can't afford it, but if they save up their money, you will match what they save, or say you will pay for half.
You will earn extra brownie points if you find the item somewhere on the Internet for cheaper, and you have ordered it whilst they are having a tantrum.
This will be up to you and based on how childish they were in the store.
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