My name is Audrina Lawrence and I'm interviewing the author, Alison Moxley.
This story is a compelling read, and in some parts, I cried along with her, and felt the pain and agony of losing an infant in a custody battle.
This is the interview that followed: AL: This story you tell almost seems to be to unreal to be true.
Is this based on true events? AM: Yes, the book is based on actual events that happened to me and my daughter between 2005 and 2010.
AL: So tell me about Alexis Moxley.
How old is she now? AM: She's a wonderful child, both inside and out.
She's 5 now.
I can't believe it's been five years already.
Al: So you were in a relationship with this McKinly Coleman guy, who is Alexis Moxley's father, is that right? He was your boyfriend? AM: Yes.
Well, he was more like my best friend.
When we were together I loved and trusted him very much.
He was like my other half, so to speak.
AL: That's interesting, given the story.
So what happened? AM: Well, in September 2004, I became pregnant with Alexis.
He immediately demanded I get an abortion.
I refused.
He got really upset and shortly after started claiming Alexis was not his child.
AL: So was he involved in the pregnancy at all? AM: No.
Not until the last month or so.
When I was about eight months pregnant, he started to come around, and he even attended a childbirth class with me.
I thought things were going to work out with us.
I was hopeful.
AL: In the book you describe trouble that started brewing with his family during your pregnancy.
Can you tell me about that? AM: *Laughs* His mother.
What a piece of work.
She hated me from the beginning.
I mean from the day she met me.
McKinly and I were supposed to meet up to go to a prenatal appointment together.
I had a job interview first, and I was going to go to the doctor's afterward.
Neither of us had cell phones then.
I told him to meet me at my house at a certain time.
He was 40 minutes late and I had to leave without him, so he didn't get to go.
AL: And how did he feel about that? AM: He was pretty upset.
I felt bad, but I did get the job so I was happy.
A few days later, he called me from his mom's house to cancel dinner plans with me.
I had planned to cook dinner for him for Christmas eve at my house.
Well, I had shopped for the food and prepared the meal and he just canceled on me.
I tried to call him right back to try to convince him to come anyway, since I had already cooked the food.
His mom answered and hilarity ensued.
AL: Hilarity? AM: Yeah, he's a big mama's boy.
When I asked to speak to him, she proceeded to chew me out about leaving "her child" and going to the doctor without him.
She said she spoke for him and she was mad that I didn't wait for him.
AL: That's hilarious! His mommy had to stick up for him.
AM: Oh, it got worse.
But yeah, mommy or daddy were always stepping in to take up for their baby.
AL: Ok, so the baby gets there and things improve? AM: Yes and no.
He was around a lot, but he didn't really help.
It was then that I had started noticing that I was sad often and crying a lot.
I was slipping into depression.
I was doing most of the work of raising Alexis, the late nights were getting to me, and I was forced to go back to work after only a month because he was not helping financially.
AL: Wow, sounds bad.
AM: It was pretty bad.
And add to that the fact that I had a c-section birth that was very complicated and I had problems breastfeeding.
It was pretty rough on me.
AL: You describe an incident in your book where McKinly forced you to take a DNA test.
Can you tell me about that? AM: Yes.
It was about two weeks after Alexis was born.
It was early July and the weather was stifling.
I mean, it had to be in the high 90's.
Well, McKinly insisted on having a DNA test done immediately.
I had asked him if it could wait until I was feeling better, because I still had my stitches in from the surgery and I could not walk very well.
I also had mastitis and I had just gotten over a fever and an infection.
But he told me that I had to go.
He put me and Alexis in his friend's car, and we drove almost an hour in a car with no air conditioning in a heatwave with a two week old newborn.
I was in so much pain that I was literally reduced to tears.
AL: Wow, that seems pretty insensitive.
But you describe him as a very insensitive person in your book.
Can you tell us about the incident at the party? AM: Yes.
And please understand that it's hard for me to recall these facts because they're just as painful now as they were five years ago.
AL: I understand.
AM: When I got out of the hospital, I was on a lot of medication for pain from the surgery.
One of the side effects of the medication was that it caused me to have a weak bladder.
So I had accidents from time to time.
Well, McKinly was usually there to help me get cleaned up.
He was very helpful in that respect.
AL: So what happened at the party? AM: When Alexis was about a month old, he had a party to celebrate his mother's birthday.
I drove out with Alexis so that she could meet her grandparents.
When I got there, McKinly's father says, in front of the other guests, "Ok, don't pee on my floor!," and everyone starts laughing.
I realized that McKinly had told all of his friends and family that I was having bladder problems.
AL: In the book, you say that when you look back on it, you see that he was just trying to break you down by humiliating you publicly.
AM: Yes.
He was always somewhat intimidated that I was more intelligent than he was, so he was always trying to find ways to knock me down, so to speak.
AL: Well, that's all for now.
We'll follow up with part two where we'll discuss the next big tragedy to befall you that year, and how your relationship with Mckinly Coleman ultimately ended.
AM: Thanks for reading my book and interviewing me.
AL: Of course.
I'm sure it will be a best seller when it comes out in early 2011.
This story is a compelling read, and in some parts, I cried along with her, and felt the pain and agony of losing an infant in a custody battle.
This is the interview that followed: AL: This story you tell almost seems to be to unreal to be true.
Is this based on true events? AM: Yes, the book is based on actual events that happened to me and my daughter between 2005 and 2010.
AL: So tell me about Alexis Moxley.
How old is she now? AM: She's a wonderful child, both inside and out.
She's 5 now.
I can't believe it's been five years already.
Al: So you were in a relationship with this McKinly Coleman guy, who is Alexis Moxley's father, is that right? He was your boyfriend? AM: Yes.
Well, he was more like my best friend.
When we were together I loved and trusted him very much.
He was like my other half, so to speak.
AL: That's interesting, given the story.
So what happened? AM: Well, in September 2004, I became pregnant with Alexis.
He immediately demanded I get an abortion.
I refused.
He got really upset and shortly after started claiming Alexis was not his child.
AL: So was he involved in the pregnancy at all? AM: No.
Not until the last month or so.
When I was about eight months pregnant, he started to come around, and he even attended a childbirth class with me.
I thought things were going to work out with us.
I was hopeful.
AL: In the book you describe trouble that started brewing with his family during your pregnancy.
Can you tell me about that? AM: *Laughs* His mother.
What a piece of work.
She hated me from the beginning.
I mean from the day she met me.
McKinly and I were supposed to meet up to go to a prenatal appointment together.
I had a job interview first, and I was going to go to the doctor's afterward.
Neither of us had cell phones then.
I told him to meet me at my house at a certain time.
He was 40 minutes late and I had to leave without him, so he didn't get to go.
AL: And how did he feel about that? AM: He was pretty upset.
I felt bad, but I did get the job so I was happy.
A few days later, he called me from his mom's house to cancel dinner plans with me.
I had planned to cook dinner for him for Christmas eve at my house.
Well, I had shopped for the food and prepared the meal and he just canceled on me.
I tried to call him right back to try to convince him to come anyway, since I had already cooked the food.
His mom answered and hilarity ensued.
AL: Hilarity? AM: Yeah, he's a big mama's boy.
When I asked to speak to him, she proceeded to chew me out about leaving "her child" and going to the doctor without him.
She said she spoke for him and she was mad that I didn't wait for him.
AL: That's hilarious! His mommy had to stick up for him.
AM: Oh, it got worse.
But yeah, mommy or daddy were always stepping in to take up for their baby.
AL: Ok, so the baby gets there and things improve? AM: Yes and no.
He was around a lot, but he didn't really help.
It was then that I had started noticing that I was sad often and crying a lot.
I was slipping into depression.
I was doing most of the work of raising Alexis, the late nights were getting to me, and I was forced to go back to work after only a month because he was not helping financially.
AL: Wow, sounds bad.
AM: It was pretty bad.
And add to that the fact that I had a c-section birth that was very complicated and I had problems breastfeeding.
It was pretty rough on me.
AL: You describe an incident in your book where McKinly forced you to take a DNA test.
Can you tell me about that? AM: Yes.
It was about two weeks after Alexis was born.
It was early July and the weather was stifling.
I mean, it had to be in the high 90's.
Well, McKinly insisted on having a DNA test done immediately.
I had asked him if it could wait until I was feeling better, because I still had my stitches in from the surgery and I could not walk very well.
I also had mastitis and I had just gotten over a fever and an infection.
But he told me that I had to go.
He put me and Alexis in his friend's car, and we drove almost an hour in a car with no air conditioning in a heatwave with a two week old newborn.
I was in so much pain that I was literally reduced to tears.
AL: Wow, that seems pretty insensitive.
But you describe him as a very insensitive person in your book.
Can you tell us about the incident at the party? AM: Yes.
And please understand that it's hard for me to recall these facts because they're just as painful now as they were five years ago.
AL: I understand.
AM: When I got out of the hospital, I was on a lot of medication for pain from the surgery.
One of the side effects of the medication was that it caused me to have a weak bladder.
So I had accidents from time to time.
Well, McKinly was usually there to help me get cleaned up.
He was very helpful in that respect.
AL: So what happened at the party? AM: When Alexis was about a month old, he had a party to celebrate his mother's birthday.
I drove out with Alexis so that she could meet her grandparents.
When I got there, McKinly's father says, in front of the other guests, "Ok, don't pee on my floor!," and everyone starts laughing.
I realized that McKinly had told all of his friends and family that I was having bladder problems.
AL: In the book, you say that when you look back on it, you see that he was just trying to break you down by humiliating you publicly.
AM: Yes.
He was always somewhat intimidated that I was more intelligent than he was, so he was always trying to find ways to knock me down, so to speak.
AL: Well, that's all for now.
We'll follow up with part two where we'll discuss the next big tragedy to befall you that year, and how your relationship with Mckinly Coleman ultimately ended.
AM: Thanks for reading my book and interviewing me.
AL: Of course.
I'm sure it will be a best seller when it comes out in early 2011.
SHARE
